Long Distance Relationships
Most long distance relationships exist to provide one or both parties with a rationalization to limit the posiibility of actually engaging in a "real relationship".
In the case of men who fly women in for short flings, those men are almost always flying in, and sleeping with, many other women because they can, and because they need to reinforce their power and control perceptions of themselves.
In almost every case, a long distance relationship is a "fling with extra added commitment-reduction buffers" supplied by the airplane trip.
A number of New York and Silicon Valley types have private jets and contract pilots who continually fly from city to city dropping girls off in one and picking others up in other cities. The men will see the girls when they are "coming into town on business" but often the "business meetings" on other nights are with other girls in the same city. The psychological effect of a famous dot.com millionaire or CEO throwing his fame around, confuses young women and causes many to lose perspective or their moral compass because the world of fame has no rules.
COMMENTS
Sandra- "From my experience working in mental health, part of the appeal of a long-distance relationship is that it can foster feelings similar to being in a relationship but doesn't really require the same level of vulnerability that an i-person relationship requires. Vulnerability is tough and lots of people don't engage fully in relationships because of that. Being young and naive might also go into it but when a person wants something badly enough they will not recognize obvious red flags."
Tom- "Long distance online dating with someone you have never met in person has failed for millions of people. I have never heard of it working, ever! Once you met your mail-order bride or small town home-coming queen from across the country the chemistry part fails within the first 5 minutes of seeing each other and now you are standing in an airport with your soul on the ground wondering how fast you can get them back on the plane without it being painfully awkward."
Evers- Everything in text, email and phone will be misconstrued with a stranger you have never interacted with. It will start out wonderful and you will both create a lovely fantasy in your minds but soon one or the other will assume the other is dating someone else, or doing this or that, that they made up, in their mind, and they cut off contact out of frustration and you never even meet."
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Most long distance relationships exist to provide one or both parties with a rationalization to limit the posiibility of actually engaging in a "real relationship".
In the case of men who fly women in for short flings, those men are almost always flying in, and sleeping with, many other women because they can, and because they need to reinforce their power and control perceptions of themselves.
In almost every case, a long distance relationship is a "fling with extra added commitment-reduction buffers" supplied by the airplane trip.
A number of New York and Silicon Valley types have private jets and contract pilots who continually fly from city to city dropping girls off in one and picking others up in other cities. The men will see the girls when they are "coming into town on business" but often the "business meetings" on other nights are with other girls in the same city. The psychological effect of a famous dot.com millionaire or CEO throwing his fame around, confuses young women and causes many to lose perspective or their moral compass because the world of fame has no rules.
COMMENTS
Sandra- "From my experience working in mental health, part of the appeal of a long-distance relationship is that it can foster feelings similar to being in a relationship but doesn't really require the same level of vulnerability that an i-person relationship requires. Vulnerability is tough and lots of people don't engage fully in relationships because of that. Being young and naive might also go into it but when a person wants something badly enough they will not recognize obvious red flags."
Tom- "Long distance online dating with someone you have never met in person has failed for millions of people. I have never heard of it working, ever! Once you met your mail-order bride or small town home-coming queen from across the country the chemistry part fails within the first 5 minutes of seeing each other and now you are standing in an airport with your soul on the ground wondering how fast you can get them back on the plane without it being painfully awkward."
Evers- Everything in text, email and phone will be misconstrued with a stranger you have never interacted with. It will start out wonderful and you will both create a lovely fantasy in your minds but soon one or the other will assume the other is dating someone else, or doing this or that, that they made up, in their mind, and they cut off contact out of frustration and you never even meet."
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